Interesting article. I'm not sure about a stereo-type. That introduces a whole new idea to it although maybe the fact that we all have narcissistic tendencies could indicate more of stereo-type than a disorder. Narcissists are not aware of their own pain or the pain they inflict on others as you know for well; the down side is that many of their behaviours get them what they want and need. They are incredibly immature people with childish undeveloped needs and often it is a comorbid disorder with PTSD and/or development trauma being quite prevalent as well. Society has recently been traumatized at a societal level and that adds to the chaos we now see in society. Its getting very difficult out there and emotional intelligence and empathy are getting further disconnected when people are traumatized on multiple levels. The mistrust is horrendous and the anxiety of juggling this for many, has become distressing. My observation and opinion.
Interesting observations Kerrie! We are working on a book which should be finished soon which attempts to untangle much of what you mention here. I will be posting shorter articles on many of these subjects here in the near future :)
i love this post!! i have been following Kim and Steve’s lessons and writings for years, and here Kim nails it again with another fascinating take on a cultural phenomenon and how it relates to our relational health. i love her work. when i come back to it, i always find something new for my growth that relates to circumstances i’m experiencing in life. you’ve done it again, Kim!! thanks for helping us all to up level ourselves and our families, and thanks for helping to raise us all into mature, filled with peace and joy, emotionally healthy, loving people.
Kim your book ('lookingglass' was in the title) gave me the tools I needed when I was in the thick of the narcissistic 'marriage'. I learned what to do if I wanted to stay or decided to leave. I decided to leave last year. Thank you so much for being a part of my healing journey. I wish you all the best on this new platform 💐
As a child , I did not play with the Barbie doll . As an adult , to me , it is more of a phallic symbol than a female identity sculpture - neither baby doll , nor truly present , ( I had a stuffed hippo with a pink tutu , and a teddy bear ) I found the story line of the movie , once again , all about the masculine psychology of pretending that the tiny thing between the legs , is a RTW5000 , my made up name for a machine gun , because I do not even know what a name of a weapon is . True feminine psychology does not HAVE the nerve endings to comprehend the culture of constant domination - this is why we have to read books , and study it -- it is a foreign culture created by the Teutonic Cults . Narcissism comes from distorted tribalism , where to prevent incest , the females were sent away to tribes at a distance , and their natural humanity / power was denied them from a very early age . This disease is visible in many many cultural "Normative " systems all over the world , except now , not only are the females disconnected from their nature , but so are the males -- No matter what , it is never going to be naturally felt why family members see each other as the enemy . This is just not how human beings evolved to function . As apex predators , the only reason we were able to hunt , and get the food we needed , was because of extreme co operation . When a member of the tribe was destroying the unity , this would be immediately obvious to the tribe . Because of de coupling -- oil , cars , highways , houses , rooms , grocery stores , schools -- divorce , shunning , etc etc , this illness is like a layer of putrid culture , living off the backs of the natural world , and the natural feelings of women to have their children , and raise them in peace . Barbie is not a female , it is a male sex toy that was discovered in a shop window in Germany in the early part of last century , brought back to the USA by a female who worked at a toy makers , and then created Barbie Land . Very few people have the nerve endings to deal with the knowing , or to confront this scene , with grace and dignity as Kim and Steve have done . I keep on trying .
Thanks Kim, for your insight and wisdom, and scholarly approach! I'm so glad to have access to your work.
So glad to have you part of our new community here!
Interesting article. I'm not sure about a stereo-type. That introduces a whole new idea to it although maybe the fact that we all have narcissistic tendencies could indicate more of stereo-type than a disorder. Narcissists are not aware of their own pain or the pain they inflict on others as you know for well; the down side is that many of their behaviours get them what they want and need. They are incredibly immature people with childish undeveloped needs and often it is a comorbid disorder with PTSD and/or development trauma being quite prevalent as well. Society has recently been traumatized at a societal level and that adds to the chaos we now see in society. Its getting very difficult out there and emotional intelligence and empathy are getting further disconnected when people are traumatized on multiple levels. The mistrust is horrendous and the anxiety of juggling this for many, has become distressing. My observation and opinion.
Interesting observations Kerrie! We are working on a book which should be finished soon which attempts to untangle much of what you mention here. I will be posting shorter articles on many of these subjects here in the near future :)
i love this post!! i have been following Kim and Steve’s lessons and writings for years, and here Kim nails it again with another fascinating take on a cultural phenomenon and how it relates to our relational health. i love her work. when i come back to it, i always find something new for my growth that relates to circumstances i’m experiencing in life. you’ve done it again, Kim!! thanks for helping us all to up level ourselves and our families, and thanks for helping to raise us all into mature, filled with peace and joy, emotionally healthy, loving people.
Thanks Bridget - wonderful that you found us here!
Kim your book ('lookingglass' was in the title) gave me the tools I needed when I was in the thick of the narcissistic 'marriage'. I learned what to do if I wanted to stay or decided to leave. I decided to leave last year. Thank you so much for being a part of my healing journey. I wish you all the best on this new platform 💐
Thank you Kim and Steve! You are so perceptive. SO thankful for your insights. HSD San Diego, CA
As a child , I did not play with the Barbie doll . As an adult , to me , it is more of a phallic symbol than a female identity sculpture - neither baby doll , nor truly present , ( I had a stuffed hippo with a pink tutu , and a teddy bear ) I found the story line of the movie , once again , all about the masculine psychology of pretending that the tiny thing between the legs , is a RTW5000 , my made up name for a machine gun , because I do not even know what a name of a weapon is . True feminine psychology does not HAVE the nerve endings to comprehend the culture of constant domination - this is why we have to read books , and study it -- it is a foreign culture created by the Teutonic Cults . Narcissism comes from distorted tribalism , where to prevent incest , the females were sent away to tribes at a distance , and their natural humanity / power was denied them from a very early age . This disease is visible in many many cultural "Normative " systems all over the world , except now , not only are the females disconnected from their nature , but so are the males -- No matter what , it is never going to be naturally felt why family members see each other as the enemy . This is just not how human beings evolved to function . As apex predators , the only reason we were able to hunt , and get the food we needed , was because of extreme co operation . When a member of the tribe was destroying the unity , this would be immediately obvious to the tribe . Because of de coupling -- oil , cars , highways , houses , rooms , grocery stores , schools -- divorce , shunning , etc etc , this illness is like a layer of putrid culture , living off the backs of the natural world , and the natural feelings of women to have their children , and raise them in peace . Barbie is not a female , it is a male sex toy that was discovered in a shop window in Germany in the early part of last century , brought back to the USA by a female who worked at a toy makers , and then created Barbie Land . Very few people have the nerve endings to deal with the knowing , or to confront this scene , with grace and dignity as Kim and Steve have done . I keep on trying .