Verbal Abuse is Not Just Things You Don’t Want to Hear

If They Are Having Doubts Let Them Talk!

Let it Snow

If someone is telling you that they don’t like you and don’t want to be with you, this is not necessarily false pride or verbal abuse.

As much as it hurts, this may simply be the truth about how they feel.

Accepting this and letting them talk without you trying to convince them to stay or letting your own hurt make you hurtful in response, may be the start of something and not the end.

They may want to leave, but bracing yourself and letting them talk––without you saying too much, arguing or trying to convince them to change their mind––may allow those feelings to change.

Agreeing while offering your own feelings on the subject is tough but if you don’t want them to leave is the best thing you can do.

“I guess you're right, but I don’t feel the same way.”

“I understand, but still, it does make me sad.”

This is not always easy to pick. Steve used to tell me that he hated me all the time and that he didn’t want to be with me, when deep down, I knew he did. Letting him talk abo…